Your “flaws” are still a part of you.
What I’ve learned over the 22 years that I’ve been alive, is that growing up and accepting yourself is one of the hardest challenges you’ll ever face. The standard of beauty has set such weird expectations, sometimes I wonder who the hell they are talking to, because if that’s what they are looking for - find me a new planet, NOW.
What they call undesirable - I’ve learnt it as unique. As a child, I used to hate how big my nose was, how big my lips were, and don’t even get me started on my forehead. Although I grew up in London, I was lucky enough to attend a school that was a melting pot (well primary school anyway) there was diversity, to an extent. But, as your growing up, you tend to pay more attention to details and begin comparing yourself to what the world see’s as “beautiful”.
Now, instead of embracing and loving who we are, we are trying desperately to change, but why? Why do we put ourselves through all that suffering? At the end of the day, we all want to feel included or be counted in or look like that m0del they see all over Instagram. Honestly, it’s exhausting - just take me as I come.
You can’t expect to feel beautiful if you don’t learn to love all your “flaws” first, embrace them, take the time to analyze it, work with it. Or if it’s something you really can’t stand and tried for years to make it a part of you and you just can’t, then get a bag and go change it - the decision is all yours honey. Once you’ve made that choice to love all of you and not just parts of you, it’ll show as your confidence grows. I don’t need to look like what’s their face, I’m my own kind of beautiful and I’m damn sure going to own it.
We are all hand crafted, why would you want to be like every flower in the bouquet - STAND OUT BITCH!
