It’s not always easy to forgive especially when you don’t think they deserve it. Forgiveness to me is a decision from the soul. A decision to release feelings of vengeance/hate/resentment (or any low frequency energies you are harboring) towards somebody or even yourself and I find A LOT of individuals cannot do just that - they cannot forgive.
I spoke to an old high school friend the other day for the first time in a long time. The conversation went a little something like this, cutting to the main point obviously:
Her: " Any way girl, you spoke to Jessica since you left*?" *Name changed for you to mind ya own business*
Me: "Eh once or twice years ago though, how is she doing?"
Her: "I still hate that bitch, I hate that bitch with a passion!"
Me: "What did I miss? Y'all were literally inseparable when I left London"
Her: "I honestly don't remember details, but she did some grimey shit"
This conversation honestly inspired this post because there are so many out here who are holding on to feelings such as hate for no reason at all - what is done is done. Why are you punishing yourself still holding on to that hate? Forgiveness brings forth healing, if you can’t forgive them/yourself how do you intend to heal from what has been done - the point is you don’t!
I’m not sitting here as someone who has always been forgiving, I’ve definitely had times where I just couldn’t bring myself to forgive because I thought they damn sure didn’t deserve it. But I came to a point in my life where I thought to myself, “This is not something I can take through life with me.” It’s affecting my mood, it’s affecting my energy, I get mad when I think about it, why am I choosing to hold on to this - it’s done.
So, I forgave them and I forgave myself because I realized hmmm maybe if I trust this thing called forgiveness, it might just lead me in better direction with myself, and it did. Now, I forgive with no thought in mind because why on Earth am I going punish myself for something you did, honey that’s on you. I forgave you for me, so I could feel better. Now, whatever your conscious wants to do with you, is between you and you.
Forgiving brings healing (if you are willing to do the work of course) but never forgetting brings growth.
