Influencers
Who/what you surround yourself with will influence you.
I know you guys have probably heard a plethora of sayings for this one phrase, growing up my parents use to always tell me the people you hang around will influence you or y’all know the famous sentence - “I don’t want you hanging out with so and so because their a bad influence.” And in the back of my mind I’d always think whatever, I’m me and ain’t nobody gonna influence me to do shit unless I want to do it.
But I grew up and realized just like everything else in life there could be a positive impact or a negative one - it all depends on you, so I put them into three categories.
Positive influence: When you have a healthy relationship within your circle, they are your teachers and your motivators even when you can’t motivate yourself sometimes, they give you that boost, they elevate you to help reach your goals. Now, I know everyone has a different group of friends for different occasions - am I right? Hell yeah I am - We got our school friends, primary school friends, clubbing friends, shotsallnight friends, stoner friends, successful-stoner friends, bougie friends, school nerd friends, religous friends, conspiracy theories friends, toomuchcloutontheirmind friends, sticky finger friends, and your promiscuous friends. The list goes on, but you let them influence you for different purposes, the main thing is they want to see you win, you all want to see each other win.
Negative influence: When your circles goals and their drive are not the same as yours. They don’t want to see you win ALONE, unless they are with you and can recieve credit (you ever told someone a successful story and you can see the envy in their eyes - THAT IS WHAT I’M TALKING ABOUT). In unhealthy relationships, you value their opinion so much that you don’t actually see that their the ones holding you back. So, you continue on that cycle and after a while it starts to get uncomfortable because you’re no longer aligning yourself with what you really want to do/be. A relationship becomes toxic when you are no longer listening to yourself.
Blended influence: So now you have your postive and your negative influence are rolled up in to one to give you choice. It’s when you have all these negative influences around you and you are unable to escape it but you see it and you go - “You’re influencing me to be nothing like you.” You choose to not let them influence you/ let the influence take over and guys I’m not just talking about your friends - I’m talking about family too.
So, at the end of the day, pick your friends wisely. You can’t of course pick your family but you can choose to follow the wave or you can create one for youself.
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