Protect your energy

Your attitude/energy is the only thing you are in control of so, protect it. And when I say “only”, I’m using it very broadly cause of course you are in control of many things but in everyday life you come across so many interactions with different people - especially if you work in a busy environment.

When I tend to have conversations with others, you can call it their energy/attitude/vibes - I can feel ALL that and I know many others out there can too (SHOUTOUT TO ALL MY EMPATHS, I LOVE Y’ALL). As I engage in conversations, my mind already is on the verge of deciding whether the hell this shit is going to go left ot right before I even open my mouth. At first, the inital feeling I felt was almost always automatically reciprocated to the person I was talking to and there was no thought about it.

After a while, I wondered why I was feeling so shitty after I’d have conversations that sparked emotions and I finally started to become aware of what I was doing. I was matching whatever frequency they threw at me, like the level they were on - I would stoop to it.

Over time I noticed if I just take a second to THINK about how I want to feel during this conversation, what vibe do I want and intend to give them? I’ve become the type of person who yes has countless emotions running through me all the time but I know that it’s my choice to feel however I want to feel. I’m not saying that people aren’t going to influence a part of your emotions and I’m most definitely not saying if somebody tries you you’re supposed to just smile and wave BUT I am saying it is your choice on how you want to respond to it.

So, if you want to walk away from the conversation feeling content with yourself then do as you feel is right without lowering your own energy, don’t let anybody coheres you into feeling the same way.

Tip: Smiling will automatically change your tone of voice (even if you are pissed, trust me) and release happy chemicals. Try it :)

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